Guys, here are 7 tips for success on your first date with a girl. Do these things and you will be well on your way.
1. Be Relaxed.
Naturally you are going to be a little bit nervous. Specially if your date is hot. But if you go about acting like a bundle of nerves and you can't even get your key in a car door, for example, how is that going to look to the girl? Or if you are constantly checking you brought everything you need or other such nervous behaviors, what is she going to think about you? Maybe you think you can get away with just saying buh buh buh when you first start talking to her? No, you can't. So the advice is, just try to be relaxed like you're out with your own buddies. Just relax. Maybe you will make a little mistake in what you say or do, but the outcome will be so much better if you seem relaxed about it.
2. Be Confident.
This might seem to be just the same as the previous tip, but it's not. Being confident is about knowing that everything is going to be OK, it's about having the air of being someone who is used to seeing a successful outcome, to yourself and to your date. But you may say, how can I feel confident like that? The fact is I'm NOT that sort of person. How can you say that? You got this far, didn't you? Your date has agreed to go out with you. That's something to feel confident about. So now all you need to do is to build on that. So much of confidence is in the mind, so adopt a confident mindset. You'll see the difference right away.
3. Be Your Best.
If you're going to impress your date, it is essential that you have got to be your best. That means obviously that you are showered and shaved and spruced, and you make it clear that you have taken some trouble over getting your appearance just right, the best you can make it. And you will not wear your old clothes, will you? Not unless it's a vamps n tramps fancy-dress you're taking her to. You should never worry if you maybe think you are not a pretty boy or handsome in any classic way. Believe it or not, but girls really don't find that stuff so important. They do, however, like a guy that dresses nicely.
4. Be Interested.
This means that you ask her questions about herself. No, I don't mean you ask her any intimate personal details or any stuff that you wouldn't want anyone to ask you. But girls like to talk. You've seen them when they are in a group. Do they talk a lot? You bet they do. So if you ask her the right kind of questions, she will start to talk to you. And as she does so, she will relax with you, and start to trust you like a friend. Don't be afraid to have some silences, but try to keep the conversation flowing naturally. If she asks you about yourself, try to answer in the same vein. Above all you should resist the temptation to rant on about your favorite subject as this stage. Yes I know it may be interesting, but there will be time to talk about that later, if you get this first date right.
5. Be Your Own Person.
Your date has agreed to go out with YOU, not your friends, not your political party, noy your church, or whatever. So your task is to be your own person. A person who is happy to make some decisions, but is willing to ask others what they feel. For instance, if it comes to a choice between going to this club or that bar, why not ask her how she feels about it. If she doesn't mind, then you make a decision. Don't worry if the place turns out to be a freeze, the world doesn't depend on you being right all the time. If she expresses a preference, then go with that, but it is you that makes the decision to go. This time, if it turns out wrong, it was still your choice so you take responsibility. Girls like guys to be decisive, but without being pushy or coercive about it.
6. Be Detached.
Being detached means not appearing to be too heavily involved in the outcome. You are going out to have a nice time, it doesn't matter to you what comes of it. You are just happy to live in the moment and enjoy yourself with her company. If there is one thing that a girl really hates above all on a first date, it is when a guy starts acting desperate or needy. She will get visions of having to change her cell phone number and all that other hassle, because this guy keeps calling her up and all those stalking things. If there is even a hint of any of that, believe me, you won't see her for dust. So act like this is not that important to you.
7. Be Youself.
Above all, you should just be yourself. A lot of guys on first dates try to prove that they are somehow better than they are, or they are like one of their associates who they know is successful with women, or like some movie star they admire. But it is usually very easy to see through these disguises. Just be yourself plus all the other things we just said, then everything will most likely be fine. And if it isn't, well, you will have learned some things you can use on your next first date.
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Good luck!
